Most people are familiar with PTSD as it’s often portrayed in the media. However, complex and relational trauma are less talked about. Instead of a single, horrific event, these types of traumas involve ongoing stressors that become part of daily life, often to the point of being normalized. Yet, deep down, you might sense that something isn’t quite right.

It can stem from childhood experiences, such as growing up with inconsistent or unreliable caregivers who are unable to meet your needs. It can also manifest in adult relationships, particularly when there’s a power imbalance, whether in romantic relationships, religious settings, sports environments, or even friendships. Some people may not remember what happened to them, downplay it by thinking “it wasn’t that bad,” or idealize their abuser and blame themselves instead. They may find themselves repeatedly entering the same types of relationships and not understand why.